Are you a busy mum like me who runs around after your family and doesn’t make time for yourself. I bet you’re nodding?? No? Well them you are doing something right – well done!!
Life is one big roller coaster, ups, downs, twists and turns. Let’s not forget the corkscrew where you seem to be going round and round, being thrown up side down!!
I felt like I was on the corkscrew for nearly two weeks earlier on this month. I was in a dark place, the black dog was on me. I felt tearful, overwhelmed, apathetic, angry, short tempered to name a few of the emotions. I felt lost and as though there was no way out. I didn’t think it would ever end!
It felt like PMS but on steroids ! I don’t usually have PMS as such as I have had an early menopause at 38 (3 years ago) and don’t have periods. However I have been on the oral contraceptive pill for 6 months as a way of giving my body some hormones. It worked well for a time but judging by the way I felt earlier this month it’s not working now!
Any hoo…. now I’ve had a period (a ‘pretend’ one because of the pill) I feel a lot calmer.
This means that I can reflect on what made me feel so bad so quickly. It wasn’t any one thing, it was a culmination of things. The signs were all there but I chose to ignore them.
- Taking on too much
- not doing anything for me. Self care
- Not spending enough time with family and friends
- Working too much
- Not saying no
- Not ringing people and sharing how I feel
- Not exercising
- Not eating well
I have learnt the painful way that I have to look after ME to look after everyone else. Before I thought that sounded selfish but now I have turned that around.
I like this analogy.
Imagine you were on a plane and the pilot announced that you were going to have to make an emergency landing. The oxygen masks come done. Who’s mask do you put on first, your childs or yours?
Your’s of course!! If you don’t have oxygen you won’t be able to save your child.
Busy mums we have to start to look after ourselves! Yes it’s hard but it’s worth it. No one wants to be stressed out, ratty, snappy to their loved ones!
What can you do to look after yourself? It doesn’t have to be a huge gesture. Start with small things. A small daily act is better than a big event every 6 months.
- take up a hobby
- take a bath
- learn something new
- go for a walk
- relax with a book
- learn to meditate (this is one that i really want to do but I can’t yet get it in my life yet)
- pamper yourself
- you get the idea…..
Life is too short not to be kind and look after yourself. Someone said to me just ‘keep it simple’ and ‘this too shall pass’ that is really helping me today.
Stop, slow down, enjoy life and be grateful for all that you have.
Have a great day